It’s not a problem, it’s a challenge! *ugh*

That title is just bullshit, don’t you think? (pardon my French). Of course some things are just problems. They’re annoying, they’re painful, they’re standing in the way.  (For a further, excellent, exploration of this, see David Mitchells Soapbox)

Our autism provides us with some strengths, but we’d be crazy to deny it also causes problems.

Still, when it comes down to it, there is a grain of truth in the expression.

We HAVE been given unique opportunities. People around us cause us near constant pain and confusion, to which they are either oblivious or indifferent. Only very rarely will we encounter someone willing to accommodate us.

That means we live in an almost permanent state of being forced to forgive people who are not in the least remorseful. We live in an almost permanent state of not knowing what’s next, forcing us to rely on the only Person who IS constant and reliable.

And because of this, when we do encounter those rare people willing to make an effort, we have all the more reason to be thankful.

So all things considered, maybe we’re not that badly off. We certainly have been provided with loads and loads of practice material on our way to sainthood (whatever route we need to take there).

Also – our own peculiarities provides plenty of practice material for other people, so we contribute quite a lot to their deification process, as well 🙂

Of the above, only the latter comes easily. The other two – forgiving and relying on God – require practice. Especially when our brain difference requires that we take a different and sometimes uncharted road towards that goal.

Let’s explore those uncharted roads. Let’s make roadmaps for future generations, for the children with autism who are growing up. Let’s set aside all those things, excellent and godly though they might be, that do not work for us and make our way to our salvation by finding the ways in which we can.

It’s not just that we owe it to ourselves – a true, if cheesy, sentiment – but we owe it to Christ Who came to save us, came so that we may have life. After all, if there’s *anyone* who has shown Himself willing to make an effort, it’s Him, right?

 

New Year Wishlist

Happy New Year everyone.

I find myself pretty relaxed and with a head almost empty after nine days at the monastery. Since right now, everyone is still asleep after the New Year party, I have time to write down my wishlist for the new year. And this year I’ll have 366 days to work on the items on the list, since it’s a leap year!

  1. I’ll be nicer to neurotypicals and remember that they can’t help it. The poor souls have an overactive secretary in their brain – we must make allowances for that.
  2. I’ll work on improving communication with others. There’s a whole box of tricks that I’ve not yet tried out. Time to do some experimenting.
  3. Now that I’m no longer working with morse code and smoke signals to try and build a relationship with God (see a previous blog) I will invest as much as I can into said relationship, and continue to find new ways to do so.
  4. I will continue to find ways to make services more bearable, and implement them. I will give thanks for the people willing to assist, encourage, and suffer me.
  5. I will continue with this blog, in the hopes that one day I’ll be able to be at least of some assistance to others.
  6. I’ll be nicer to neurotypicals. (Yes, I know I said that in point 1. It bears repeating. They really frustrate and annoy the hell out of me and provide rich opportunities to practice all sorts of virtues. It’s not their fault and I will try to remember that.)
  7. I ran out of points. But I wanted a nice list of seven. So, as point seven: I will try to be less obsessive about such things.

 

That’s it on this New Years Day. I’ll get back to you when I’ve had more than two-and-a-half hours of sleep. Wishing you all a rich and fruitful 2016.